Genuine appreciation 

I have been thinking about what motivates people and enthuses them to carry on further something they have strived and achieved? I felt the following two quotes aptly summarize  it:

"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." -William James

"Next to excellence is the appreciation of it." -William Makepeace Thackeray

Thus excellence shines through genuine appriciation  and perhaps without which the beatific nature of human beings to excell will perhaps  become extinct! So appriciation should be such that it really touches the heart of the person appriciated to enthuse him/her to further excellence - that's what I mean is 'genuine Appriciation'!. Therefore I decided to write what genuine appreciation means.

 The following anecdote perhaps brings clarity to what has been said above :

One of the days in this week i had sent one of those normal tweet requests to follow  a woman on tweet - Lee Patrick from Australia. She responded by thanking me for following her and had added that she would look forward to my tweets. Normally people thank for following them on the tweet, however the last sentence of Lee Patrick somehow made me feel I should send a tweet enclosing an article written by me on my blog. I did so.

Her first response to one my writing I sent her thrilled me, she sent this message saying:

"Venkatesh, this is supurb, it is invigorating, you drew me into the story (it is my story - it is the story of our purpose - our journey), it built to a crescendo and walked on through on the heights of mountain as your conclusion claimed 

"It dawns on me

that taking a step ahead, pasuing and pondering in my continuous pursuit ...my destination is 'infinity' and it is the "Journey" in itself the destination.

It is so!! It IS the journey, thats the purpose. So therefore it is the destination also.

Beautiful work - beautiful words and poetry and symmetry. 

...

Thanks you for such wonderful, inspirational words and for sharing them with us.

Lee Patrick "

This elevated me and I subsequently sent some of my other stories to her and what followed that was simply amazing.... I would do well to extract a few lines of her's than to narrate it myself.. What she wrote in response really made me feel blissful - she wrote:

"I have been pouring over your site and recognise something special is occuring. Every time I read one of your works, I know this is the basis of a teaching with my women. 

...

Your mission statement is beautiful and meaningful. I am so at one with how you think, I sometimes fell that you are expressing what I cannot put into words - you say what I am - what I believe. ......

You are teaching me much Venkatesh. This morning (and I have just returned), I walked down to the beach and sat and just meditated. Something has changed in me and you and your writing are part of that. Nothing is as it was - in fact it is infinitely more exciting and alive.

" I have just finished reading Amma's Story. 

I would very much loved to have met your mother in person, however in spirit already I believe the connection is made. 

 Perhaps God has not finished with Amma. What if Amma's wisdom was taught in cooperatives across Australia? What if Amma lives not only in her loved ones but has moved to an energy that can guide and grow women even in Australia - even who did not physically know her as you do. What if her wisdom (and your wisdom Venkatesh - as you have built on that)  became available to other women who are lost in a material world of fear and worry?

These beautiful words and their meaning touch me as a mother and as woman seeking to voice that which you have so beautifully written. The  meaning has such  significance and impact that it can be shared with others, If I may teach this D. Venkatesh, then it will help to bring hope where sadness, grief and despair currently live. Thank you so very much. May I please use this?

...you did it so beautifully, so simply and so kindly ...and I can tell you I have a tear or two happening."

Isn't what Lee Patrick wrote in response to my writings was wonderful  and genuine, which enthused me and I am on with some more writings... thanks, to Lee Patric.

I am reminded of a quote which says that :

"Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well." -Voltaire

Further, I believe when appreciation not only elevates the one who is appreciated but also the person who appreciates... that's what is "genuine appreciation"!, as Francois De La Rochefoucaul put it very aptly that :

 

"To praise great actions with sincerity may be said to be taking part in them." -

I had struggled to write something on 'genuine appreciation' for some time as the topic was teasing at me from my iPad... and a fortuitous meeting Lee Patric on Tweeter and what she wrote simply filled in the space to explain genuine appreciation.  If anyone wants know what genuine appreciation is and what it does to the person appriciated, the above anecdote should be enough to understand it.  It goes without saying  that this article is dedicated to Lee Patric, who showed what genuine appreciation means.

Overcoming 'politics' in an organization.

In order to run  any government or an organization - big or small- certain policies, guidelines relating to people's relationships, authority and power to be exercised are essential so that the organization runs smoothly to achieve its mission. This is the original meaning of the word "politics"

However, over a period of time the word 'politics' has acquired a negative meaning..... and I pause to think why so??

The most important thing about an organization is its mission statement - what does the organization striving to achieve. For that very cause people have come together and have formalized guidelines for relationships, authority and power. 

Therefore, guidelines in a organization about authority and power are only means to achieve the mission of the organization. Simultaneously, it is also important that the people who come together in an organization to achieve the mission should grow, thus achieving  the mission of the organization, while there is  growth of people and their relationships in the organization.

When people in the organization forget these fundamentals of an organization,  it will lead to stunted growth of the organization and diminishes the growth, the value of people and their relationships in the organizations.

When people occupying positions in an organization use the position to wield power or when the people occupying positions in the organization use other people to satisfy their needs... the whole thing goes topsy turvy.... the mission becomes secondary and suffers as a consequence and people in the organization will no more derive satisfaction and stop growing.

I was contemplating about this and was wondering what can be the solution to overcome this kind of a situation in an organization, the recent quote by Guruji provided the answer!

"Objects should have value because of you. The sofa should phave value because you sat on it and not you having value because you have a nice sofa. That is successful living."  -  [This wisdom of Guruji is well echoed  by Gray Zukov in his book 'Soul stories' under the chapter - 'positional power vs. authentication power'.]

Then it dawned on me that, the guidelines regarding policies, positions and authority are merely recipes to achieve the mission. We don't eat recipes - but can prepare a meal out of the recipes.

The position occupied by a person should get value because of that persons ability and not the other way round. When power is derived by a person because he/she occupies a certain position is the positional  power and as soon as that position  is lost, the person loses his power. The position should get importance because of who the person is, then the power is authentic  and such a power cannot be taken away even if the position is taken away ....it won't matter.

If what Guruji said about sofa and value in the above quote is understood and implemented with knowledge by the people assigned position and authority in an organization, there can be no doubt that the mission of the organization is easily achieved by people who come together in an organization and in the process the people grow and their relationships would be satisfying. It's a win- win formula!

Serendipity. 

It was 29th may 2010.  I was born on 30th May 1959. I am  mentioning 29th May 2010, not because, that day happened to be a day before my 51st birthday, but for a special  reason that my daughter was married on that day.  June 2010 was full of activities and travel for my whole family, because after the marriage and marriage reception in Bangalore, we travelled to Shimla and  Shwantha. Shimla happens to be the place where the parents of the boy to whom my daughter is married live and Swantha happens to be the place near Himalayan range, where they have their apple orchid. The marriage reception in Shimla  was followed by our visit to Swantha. Shwantha is a scenic beauty with all it's mountains, rivers and apple orchids surrounded by the Himalayan range.  June 2010 passed by, with celebrations, travel and fun. We returned to Bangalore where we live, while may daughter and her husband went to Europe for their honey moon. After all the celebrations, I settled back to my work - my law firm. With all it's twists and turns in my life, I had done fairly well in life and life was  comfortable. 

Though, all my life's needs were met and I felt successful educationally, career wise and money, some how after reaching this point in life, I felt not very satisfied about the daily routine of my work in my law firm and all the routine connected to me. I was asking myself ...is this all to my life? Is this all that I would be doing till the end of my life...the work routine, money, parties....? I felt there was something missing in my life. But I couldn't pinpoint and say 'doing THIS' would be satisfying. So, I tried different things to find something that would bring  me that 'aha'  satisfying experience/feeling. I tried making new friends, visiting my Golf Club regularly where I had my beer sessions with the club mates, going to different restaurants in different places in the city and even tried night outs exploring the night life in the city followed by sleeping for the whole next day.. but still the boredom lingered on... 

Then I thought of finding some other activity that will interest me. I searched several social web sites and  kept my search on  for many days, hoping to find something that will evoke interest in me.

I tried looking at opportunities to travel to different countries, develop and deliver inspirational speeches (the irony was that I myself needed inspiration!),  adventure groups with whom I can associate and go on adventure trips, karaoke groups where I can participate and sing songs, educational institutions that are involved in personality development programs, children's organizations connected to development of children, nature gazers who are interested in nature - birds, trees and mountains; vacationers -visiting exotic places like the Caribbean Islands,  the Australian great barrier reef, Amazon jungles, Forests in Kenya and wild life in South Africa, the country side and the ancient forbidden city in China, tribal areas in various parts of the world........ Well the list was endless. I didn't know which one and where. I didn't know what awaited me. I spent more than a year with this relentless search and hoping something will turn up..... Nothing happened!!!

In the mean time I have had fortuitous meetings with Guruji the founder of AOL. I was invited to travel with Guruji to Bali and taking this opportunity, I travelled with him for ten days through malaysia, Singapore and Bali.  All this has happened in the period between 9th January and 20th March!

After I returned from the trip, I felt the urge to express myself through writings... during the middle of April 2012, the first writing happened ... "God whispers in Silence"!  Since then I have been writing whatever flashes in my mind as relevant to write. I shared these writings with Guruji by merely emailing my writings as offering to God. I also shared these writings through email with my sister, brother and my daughter and Timothy Wong (Tim) from Hong kong- who became a friend  during my visit to malaysia to Bali in April 2012 and a couple of my other friends. They seemed to like them. My daughter is my great inspiration and admirer and she also encouraged  me to pursue whatever I enjoyed doing most-  inspiring people, including  writing.

Thereafter a couple of incidents happened, which in retrospect do not seem to be mere coincidences...  Firstly, my daughter gifted me a book "Stumbling into Infinity" by Michael Fischman [click the link http://www.stumblingintoinfinity.com to read more about the book and the author]... with a note attached to it saying "paa.. the next book on a similar subject will be yours!".. I thanked her, laughed and told her in a lighter vein .. that If it were to happen, it will be better than this book! [..look at my audacity!?]  .. Then I tried to explain to her that, I am merely writing to inspire people to look at life with  a different perspective and if a few people are inspired reading what i am wiring, it has done its job.... and if the writings were to turn into a book, then it is their wish and  their choice!!!

Secondly, Tim, who took the courtesy to write to me encouraging me about my writings and a suggestion to start a blog. I will do well to reproduce the three emails verbatim that will do its own explaining than to explain it myself!

"Dear Venkatesh,

I'm so privilelged to have met you.  I hope you enjoyed your tour of Southeast Asia.

I'm sorry I couldn't spend more time with you but certainly did enjoy our meetings.

All the very best in all your endevours in building a better community.  Thanks for being so big!

Best regards,

Tim"

"On 25 Apr 2012, at 08:41 PM, Timothy Wong <timothy.wong@iahv.org> wrote:

Hello Venkatesh,

So good to hear from you.  I'm not sure if you got my previous emails just thanking you for sharing with me your stories.  I think you were having server problems on your phone in Bali.

I had so much fun albeit too short with you in Southeast Asia.  You're very wise and with a big golden heart.  I'm sure of this!  It dosen't take much for anyone to recognise this about you.

Yes please continue to be in touch, I will certainly let you know should I be in India and also look forward to any excuse to work with you!  I think it will be challneging, rewarding and FUN!  What more can one ask for

Anyway, I trust this email finds you and your family healthy and in good spirits. 

JGD!

Tim"

"Dear Venkatesh,

Thank-you for sharing please continue to do so!  I really enjoy your writing.  Have you considered compiling all these onto a blog? 

JGD! 

Tim"

Thus, apart from the encouragement I received from Tim, I took his suggestion and created a blog to compile my writing titled  "God  Whispers in silence" and started posting my writings on the blog.

I started a tweet and began tweeting and started following people on the tweet. One such following I requested was with Lee Patrick from Queensland Australia, who's bio read :

"Helping other women  finding their path into Healing through spiritual enlightenment and doing the journey myself. Writing my first book on Healing" 

I liked the bio and so followed her. She responded and I tweeted her back and the flood gates opened.........!!!  

Lee appreciated one my of articles 'why relationships tend to be fragile' and pointed out that, the writings can be taken to publication! 

It simply amazed me and  if I were to reproduce all the emails exchanged between Lee and Me perhaps it  may be enough manuscript for a book which can perhaps be titled "What makes relationships work"!  So, I  am keeping those emails for that topic, which will, i hope, see the light of the day soon!  

It is very important to point here that, Lee Patrick is encouraging me and is editing my articles and hopes to see the articles being used for workshops for women in Australia and also the possibility of brining them to print!

I believe it is the Grace that made this possible. It is the silent whispers of God that led me to this point in life! 

I had struggled for more than an year to find something meaningful to do and when it happened, it happened in such a lightening speed!

I remember what my father used to say that 'God sees the truth but waits', he was absolutely true. I would like to add to that -  " God is whispering to you in silence and listen to those whispers and  things will happen at lighting speed! "

I know in my heart that all this is made possible by Guruji's Grace, who is silently guiding me.

I am dedicating this article to three people - my daughter- Mansi, Tim and Lee Patrick.

                                                     .............

D.Venkatesh

Foreword - 

Why did I  choose to be an inspirational writer at the age of 53?

It has been a journey of 50 years in my life and in these years I have gone through the roller coaster of life and seen the deep valleys  and  the highest peaks. Did all the normal things a man is supposedly does.

At this stage I began to think thatsomethings I thought were important were not really so and some how felt there may be some thing more to life than these normal meanderings.

In these past several years, I  read fiction, non -fiction, the self help books and the professionally related books. Some how I felt I understood many things about the self, the love, relationships, profession and also the best things of life. I also felt that I had hit some kind a satisfactory peak which a 50 year old normal man should hit. 

Then some where from within me it began to sprout a kind of mixed feelings, thoughts, emotions, ideas, and a bit of a churning. Initially it didn't bother me nor I bothered to notice it with much interest. In short, the question that arose in me was.... 'Is this all to life?' 

However over a period of time this question appeared more often and ultimately forced me to notice it. The more this process occurred, the more intense the question became. Though I had felt learned and kind of self made man.. doubts started poking their nose in my point of view of myself and this world. I thought I was perfect in the position I was in this world and had grown respectable in the eyes of people around me. This mental state didn't last long....and what appeared about myself to be important started looking and feeling mundane! 

This was the beginning of a new churning in my life. The things that interested me didn't appeal anymore the way they use to and by and by the work, money, social respect etc..   didn't help much, instead the very same things started looking stale. I started wondering as to why those things for which I worked hard, under the impression that they were the main things, sought after by every one in life and considered so and acknowledged by my peer, my the family and people around me didn't bring a sense of joy in me?

Having reached that stage I should have felt satisfied about my life. But that was not at all the case.

So, I started wondering about the relevance of the normal things such as the amount of momey, property, social standing, etc. that are considered as bench mark for a successful person. I also started wondering about my own state of mind and my perception of myself . 

New questions kept creeping in me.... about my competence and about my judgement about myself; my so called achievements, the so called respect people showed about me and about the praise and appreciation bestowed on me by all the people connected to me.

I somehow started feeling inside me that I am not what I perceived myself to be and what others said about me. This new perspective of myself was not a pleasant one for myself and all that was being said about me started feeling shallow. The seed of doubt about 'genuineness'  sprouted into a sapling. I stared looking at myself closely. I was asking 'am I acting somebody's perception about me in addition to acting my self- imposed perception about me?'

This felt ......strange. I was not being my true self, but was acting some one else's perception of me and also my imposed image about myself. 

So I was acting my tags and labels, rather than being  myself. I realized that, in order to retain those labels I was putting my everything in a slot to conform to those labels. 

This thought started confronting me. why am I doing things I am doing? I irealized that I didn't want to disturb people's perception about me and also didn't want to shake off my own perception about myself. So I had very systematically  created a prisoner out of me in my own labels and my own perceptions and the perceptions of the people around me. The result was that, I wasn't able to say no when I really ought to have said no and express my opinion openly.   That meant that I either tolerated the agony of pleasing people to save my labels or simply gulped those opinions to keep my labels intact.

Thus the question acquired snowballing proportion and it was time I dealt with it head on and confronted and faced it boldly and courageously.

This perhaps was the beginning of my search for that 'something' which may be the churning going through me. 

Then I began writing and one such writing was "Life span perspective - it will change your life for ever".. [article is available on my blog http//vdharmraj.blogspot.in)

After this my entire perspective about life changed and then  I decided that  it was time enough that I pursue my dreams dear to me before the remaining years of my life roll by me ....And that's how I am here!.. to pursue my dreams of being an inspirational writer and speaker and would love be an inspirational and motivational trainer re human values that inspire people to share their wealth and time with others which will enable them to truly experience the joy, love and bliss of living.

My decision stands fortified by a writing titled - The five regrets people shared before they died!!! (article is available on my blog http//vdharmraj.blogspot.in)

So here I am treading my new path and expressing myself in ways that I feel right about things and concepts. I can tell you with all sincerity that though the churning is still on - yet I am enjoying this new journey - new life and the new path as freshly as a new sapling planted in an open arena of this new world seeking to grow and contribute! 

I am with all of you in this new journey..

Wish me all the luck in my new journey!

Edit -  honoring the Women:

 

God in his wisdom created men and women on this earth at the same time and gave them the gift of the same earth and all its bountiful immeasurable treasures.  

 

God didn't place any embargo or any condition on either the women. They were to equally experience life, explore it and create, contribute to the treasures of this earth and enjoy the treasures of this world.

 

To think, even remotely, that God would differentiate or discriminate between men and women in living and exploring this earth and everything in it would not only be preposterous but would be against the very essence of the concept of God!!

 

The question then is, why do we see a host of restrictions, embargos and differentiation in societies, (developed or underdeveloped), (rich or the poor) - between what women can and cannot do and what women ought and ought not to do in a host of human aspects?

 

Where, why and how did these conditions and embargoes on women, that we commonly see originate and how did they become societal ‘norms’ in various ways in different parts of the world?

 

Ask yourself... Who is the most intimately connected person to any human being?  The answer is the "mother", who through the umbilical cord gives life to the unborn child, the life sustaining milk of its infancy and throughout the early years - the teaching in the basics of life till the child grows is. It is mother – it is Woman.

 

A woman performs so many roles depending on the requirements of her life, but those closest to her will remember mostly the nurturing caring roles of mother, wife, sister, daughter, aunty, grandmother and friend.

 

But despite all the best things said about women, it is a fact that women who are past their 50th year often find themselves abandoned by those for whom she strived for years..! Who will support and empower them?

 

With everything women have lived through in a rapidly changing society, where motherhood is first revered and then relegated to a lesser role, with all the role changes women who are now over 50 have lived through, I venture to think that these women are equally capable of creating enough and more for themselves to live the rest of their life with joy, love and bliss and also show to the community that - where there is a will there is a way!

 

It is my belief that there is no magic wand, they will need to do so themselves – and that is not acceptable in most people’s eyes – however it is the way of a throwaway society, where values change like underwear. Single women over 50 are particularly vulnerable – but they are not without resources and they have the special benefit of numbers.

 

Women are well known for their ability to work together to achieve group purpose and this is the purpose of the Womens Creative Cooperatives – groups of women gathering locally across many locations who can share their resources and offer social support, where currently many women find themselves isolated.

 

All over the world, women over 50 are experiencing the same things. As they cooperative together to create a better tomorrow, they are recognising the strength they have on the inside. The inner beauty of an authentic woman working towards a more positive future - that encompasses the freedom to be who they are without restrictions, is something to behold.

 

For any change to occur, women must become empowered to make themselves  not only self-sufficient but also to inspire and empower other women, and in doing so create the political and social platform for change, that will ensure greater participation levels in women over 50.

 

 

There are examples of this choice being exercised by women all over the world at different periods of time and also in the same culture.  One such Community project is - "You and the community” in Australia.

 

There are women who stand up to support other women in their times of need and I am very sure a window will open and things will fall in place for projects like "You and the community" to be successful.

 

 

 

Different Religions is seeing One God through a prism!

There is so much debate and squabble over different religions all over the world and this has been a subject of contemplation and intellectual debates in many forums.

My mind has always thought as God being One and all the religions accepting and worshipping that there is only One God, why  should a religion become a prison to shackle people in thier one religion as the ultimate for the realization of God?

One of those evenings when I was walking contemplating about this, enjoying the sunset a light drizzle broke out through a small patch of clouds.. It felt very good to see the sunset in that drizzle and it felt Devine when I turned around to see a beautiful rainbow being formed covering the entire expanse of the sky ... My thoughts stopped and at that moment I felt I got an answer to the reason for the existence of many religions in this world and sat down to jot down  my thoughts:

God is all wisdom and all knowing and all pervading... So why did  God create many religions on this earth?  My mind was saying that there must be some purpose for this creation of God and was scratching my head to have at least a glimpse of insight about God's purpose in creating many religions!

The perfect scene of the evening Sunset, the most colorful beautiful rainbow amidst the light drizzle seemed to answer my quest.

I just imagined that if God in his wisdom had decided to create everything in one color - the trees, plants, the mountains, the birds, animals and the human beings  in one color - white, how would this world look? 

Every thing would be white... And how boring it would be to see a white tree, a white plant, a white crow and a white peacock, all things and animals, including human beings white. Life and sight around in this world would have been monotonous, dull and boring!

So God perhaps in his wisdom and creativity created a veriety of colors to make life interesting! 

Among the many celebrated scientific studies, there are two scientific studies well proven and well accepted and most revered in the history of science -  one the Raman effect and the Theory of relativity!

The Raman effect simply showed that the white light when it passed through a prism split onto seven colours and when all these colours were merged, what you got back was pure white light! 

The theory of relativity by Einstine proved that energy and mass are the same and one form of energy can be converted  to another form of energy and therefore there is only one energy!

God has been showing these two proven phenomenon for millions of years to us humans, through the creation of rain bow - that white light can be spilt into seven colours but ultimately all put together is one. - that is pure white! And when you light a fire wood you see light and also experience heat thus showing us that mass can be converted into energy  and one form of energy can be converted into another form of energy but the energy source is the One! 

If human beings had to wait for these two eminent scientists to show these natural phenomena empirically, which God has been repeatedly showing over millions of years, it's none of Gods fault but merely the ignorance of the human beings.

Thus, I believe though God in his wisdom created many religions, might have thought of giving glimpses of various philosophies through which God could be understood and realized and there was no difference between the one and the other.

It is really very amazing that every religion claims that there is only one God and only One Energy and One source but claim that there is no other religion but it's their one religion that makes it possible realize God!!!

I feel it is like seven people standing - each one in the a separate color zone created by the pure white light split in seven colors... And the one standing in the yellow zone claiming that the source is one - the pure white light and I can see it in my yellow zone and therefore the only way you can reach  the source- the white light,  is through being in the yellow zone and nowhere else and each  of the other guys making similar claims about their color zone!!

Whether one is standing in the yellow zone or red or any other color zone... When he takes that path from the color zone he is standing and follows and passes through the prism there is no alternative but to merge into one source and one energy - one pure lustrous white light!!!!    None of the guys are wrong.. But none of them are ready to see that they are different shades of the same Pure  White Light and will ultimately merge into it regardless of which path of the shade of color he takes!

In fact if all the colors are brought together ...all of them lose their identity as different shades and merge to shine in one bright white light and nothing else!!

All the religions, in my opinion, are like the different color shades of one Energy.. The One God... Therefore, respect all religions equally as paths to reach the ultimate ONE source and realize  that all paths will take you there!!  Realize, respect and regard all religions as the paths that lead to one Energy, one Source and One God! That's the truth and that's the reality whether you like it or not.

There is no other alternative!

Let the nature bloom you with soft Grace!

I read this short story about a boy who tried helping a butterfly coming out of her cocoon :

There was this bouncing young boy who lived in a country side and was a happy kid and a helpful one- full of love and enthusiasm!

There was a mulberry tree next to his home and he would enjoy playing there and go about chasing butterflies. He was enomoured by the beauty of the butterflies around the garden for their exqsite colors and the way they went from one flower to another in search of Nectar. It fainted him no end and loved butterflies with all his heart.

He was equally fascinated with caterpillars on the trees and how they voraciously ate the leaves and wove  a cocoon around them and one day they would fly out of the cocoons into those beautiful butterflies he loved to chase!

It was one of those serene mornings, this boy went out to his favorite playing area and while playing he noticed a cocoon slowly moving back and forth in a breach of the tree. He got curious and went near the branch started gazing with all his curiosity... he slowly noticed that that  the mouth of the cocoon was being chewed and slowly being opened by its owner .. The caterpillar!

After a a while he saw the cocoon open a little and a small head poked out of it.. The caterpillar had turned into a butterfly! He was very happy ..happy to see this most beautiful sight. He waited for sometime and there was no further movement in the cocoon and yet he waited still gazing at it with amazement. .....

After a while the tiny head peeping out started moving and it progressed  a little more in opening the mouth of the cocoon..  the young boy continued to watch .. the process of opening to continue... After watching this process for some time and the moth inside working its way out several times... The  boy took pity on the moth and he slowly but carefully started tearing the mouth of the cocoon and when he opened it sufficiently wide enough ... The moth fell out of the cocoon and tried to flip its wings... tried again but failed and continued trying for sometime but didn't succeed in opening its wings and fly.. 

Slowly the moth gave up its attempt to fly and lay there on the ground for some time .. Thereafter the moth could only hop around and it never turned into a butterfly .. 

It was a simple natural process for the moth to come out of the cocoon by natures graceful work on the cocoon and fly out as a very beautiful butterfly.. but even the most well intended and most sympathetic act of tearing the cocoon to help the moth to come out early actually maimed the moth from transforming it from a caterpillar to butterfly!

There is a very smile lesson in this story.... The nature will graceful work on you to open and bloom... to open and let you free to fly like a beautiful butterfly... Trust the nature and Let the nature work on you gracefully and you will bloom.. bloom and fly!